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Talesha Roberson, a mom from Spokane, Washington, recently decided to teach her 14-year-old son a lesson when he stole an iPod from a student at his school. He had stolen many things before and his mother was disgusted and frustrated. So, she had him sit in their driveway and hold up a sign that said, "I am a thief; I like to steal."
This latest incident comes on the heals of the famous YouTube rant by North Carolina dad Tommy Jordan when he shot his 15-year-old daughter’s laptop and then posted the video on YouTube and Facebook. His actions came after his daughter Hannah posted a message on her Facebook page complaining that she was tired of picking up after her dad and that she should be paid for her chores.
I am incredulous at the overwhelmingly positive response both parents have received from parents across the country. For example, NBC's "Today" polled viewers on the incident and reported that 74 percent agreed with Jordan's actions. I doubt that parents would be so accepting if teachers publicly humiliated their students. And how can parents expect teachers to successfully teach respect at school if they don’t teach it at home?
While both parents insist that their children have not been hurt or scarred by these public displays – and indeed, have learned from them – as a parent and an educator I am deeply troubled by this sort of parenting.
What ’s wrong with the actions of these parents?
Posted on March 13, 2012 by Meryl Ain, Ed.D.
Dr. Meryl Ain has worked in several large New York school districts as a central office administrator, teacher, and school building administrator. She writes about education and parenting for several publications and on her blog, You can also follow her on Twitter.
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Posted April 14, 2012 by Bonni
Jane, It is not illegal to spank your children, at least it isn't in Texas. The consequences have to fit the crime though, and they need to teach the children the correct way to behave. Restitution is generally the best way to teach a child not to steal because they learn the work that goes along with having something. As far as what the daughter did on FB, perhaps a hand-written note to each of the people that commented positively or "liked" her status message explaining that she was wrong in the way she disrespected her dad would have been a lot better learning experience. Using a gun in any way to dole out consequences to your children just really does not seem like a good idea. I am not a perfect parent by any means. My children drive me crazy, and I am capable of reacting to their actions rather than calmly dealing with situations. I do not want to seem like I am judging anyone; I cannot do that because I have never walked in their shoes.
Posted April 14, 2012 by Jane
Since it is now illegal to spank your children, I believe these parents are correct in what they did to their child. A little embarrassment never hurt anyone. Bravo to the parents of these two kids.
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